Ok where to start…Umm…Well, the new boy who is lurking finally took it there…We were hanging out and hands started wandering…No there’s no sex yet, but we’re definitely physical now. It’s funny because we haven’t kissed yet. That’s the whole weird thing about being friends with benefits. You walk this fine line between intimacy and a physical relationship. Kissing is almost too intimate. Kissing is feeling based. It’s something you do with someone you care about…So yeah, no kissing. I’m not anti kissing, but I need him to initiate that. I’m certainly not going to do it especially since we are definitely flirting with the line between dating and FWB already. A little too much texting, a few too many phone calls, too many compliments and cutesy-ness…It’s fun, but this does not need to become an actual relationship.
I’ve been thinking about compliments…I’m in the midst of this weight loss thing and it never ceases to amaze me the things that people say. I am one of those blck women who workout. I have a relaxer, but I don’t really care about my hair so I train and I train hard. I sweat til I smell bad and pretty much destroy my hair. I lift like a guy and for the most part I can keep up with the guys. How is this relevant at all? Well, the stupid things the guys say to me. They always start out as compliments and derail into insults of every black woman they can think of…Things like, “It’s nice to see a black woman in the gym…At least one of you understands obesity isn’t cute.” Ummm…Thanks? I think? WTF kind of compliment is that? Then there are the ones that speak and when I answer them say, “Oh hey cool, you don’t sound like one of those steroid chicks!” Again…Wha?! That’s not a compliment…That’s…That’s…I don’t even know what that is. I swear one of these days I’m going to snap and go off on one of these guys and explain to them that insulting other women is not how to compliment me. It’s just so strange. Can’t they just say “It’s kick ass that you lift like a guy” and leave it at that? Who cares about what other women do? Why is that even relevant? I just don’t get it.
it’s kick-ass that you lift like a kick-ass woman.