Things with Mr. FWB got more than a little complicated. I started seeing signs of manipulative tendencies I didn’t like. Rather than doing what I would have done in the past and excusing them multiple times, I forgave the first time because I played a role in that mess. The second time when he freaked out over something every other guy I know would have laughed off I put the brakes on hard and downgraded him to just friends. Period. This would not have happened without the lessons that came from therapy following my life with BPD ex. I don’t have room to keep giving chances. I understand where his weirdnesses come from, but as much as I adore this guy, it’s not worth it to be in a constant state of up and down that I can’t predict. So as cool as he is, he’s been strictly friend-zoned. I don’t have time or energy to keep trying to make it work with him. So yes, therapy works. If you have a good therapist, things start to make sense and you really can change your thought process. That said, I want a new distraction to play with for the time being.
